What Is Good Parenting?
Good parenting, to a high extent is based on common sense. At least it should be. If you want to raise your children with success, ask yourself as the life experienced person you are, which values do I want to transfer to them as a parent which are in accordance to my own, true values and beliefs? As parents we know that it is not always easy to raise our kids the way we know we should. As long as you are aware that the way you raise them day by day, will influence them for the rest of their lives, literally shaping their attitudes and personalities - your love to your kids will motivate you to do a good nurturing job. So your job as a parent is first and foremost to instill in them the values and attitudes that you know are important.
Good parents never put their children down
When you, as a parent insult your child, you lower their self image or confidence whether you mean to or not. Hence, you should endeavour to establish and keep a positive raising style. Negative reactions from the parents can cause fear and distrust in children. So if you want to build a healthy relationships between you and your children, avoid negativity and focus on the positive, even though this is not always that easy.
One of my friends who is raising two fairly uncontrollable kids has much to learn in this respect. Time after time I have observed his tendency to put them down and this nurturing style has already caused problems with the child’s behaviour only to pass this behaviour down to the next generation. I don't know how many times I have told him that being positive parents is the best way to raise a child. I still have hope that he will put this advice into practice before it is too late.
Good raising entails communicating with your
children in a positive affirmative manner
One of the best things you can do as a good parent is to speak to your children in a positive, affirmative manner. What do I mean with that? Let's say you are bothered with problems. Remember that your child did not responsible for your problems. They should not have to suffer because of it. Don’t demean your child, but engage them in honest positive communication and let them know what your problem is and that they are not the cause of it and that you need them to behave in a manner in which you need not have to chastise them, allowing you to concentrate on a solution for the problems that are bothering you. Give them a chance to show you that they understand and allow them to feel part of a tightly knit family.
There are lots of great resources online for parents on how to raise children which will help you become a great parent. Just go online and do a search and you'll receive more than enough resources to learn from.
About the Author: Terje Brooks Ellingsen is a writer and Sociologist who runs http://www.1st-self-improvement.net/. He writes about self improvement issues like achieving financial independency, see http://www.1st-self-improvement.net/financial_freedom.htm
and relationship building, see http://www.1st-self-improvement.net/building_positive_relationships.htm
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